The Year of Me

When I was a kid, I remember getting asked by teachers what my New Year's resolutions were. Every year I think about all the new possibilities of what I can do and can be. Most years I write them down, some years I just verbalize them. Every year, however, like most, I fall off the bandwagon. I get about two months in, and forget what I was wanting to do, or don't get the desired outcome from it so I give up. To be resolute is to have a definitive plan to do something. But why is it that when we make resolutions, we aren't resolute about them? Well to start, we make 100 of them so we can't focus on what exactly it is we want to do. It's easy to try to do three or four things, but not so easy to do thirty. We're also so specific that they're incredibly easy to break. And, when we do break them, we give up on them. If your goal is to cut out red meat and are really craving a burger and break your goal, the likely hood that you'll eat red meat again after that is dramatically increased. You'll make the decision that you already messed up, so might as well give it up. The best thing to do then, in my opinion, is to make larger resolutions that you can break down into individual goals through the year. This is the technique I am going to try this year. With that, I can really keep myself on track. Another technique I'm going to try is having an accountability buddy. You might not always be able to keep yourself on track, but having other people who are looking at you and know that you are breaking your goals puts a bit of pressure on you. They also can be helpful in assisting you with your goals, giving you tips, joining you on your journey, or even calling you out when you fuck up. I've found that writing my goals and posting them for the world to see works as an accountability buddy, but I'm also going to have my partner, Nick, hold me accountable. If you are going to ask someone to be accountable, it has to be someone who is ready to help you and is willing to be honest with you. If you mess up, they need to be able to tell you without you taking it as an insult. I look forward to this year because there are already so many things that I plan to do and I'm ready to make this year the best one yet.

So, here are some of my goals. I've started by breaking them up into categories and then creating a couple overall goals in those categories, and then I've broken them down into sub goals for ideas.

Personal

-Make my mental health a priority.

• Start seeing a therapist.

• Journal daily.

• Work on saying "no" to things I don't want to do.

• Find my triggers.

• Create routines.

-Express my creativity daily.

• Learn to crochet.

• Work on scrapbook.

• Take more pictures.

• Watch less tv.

• Try new recipes.

• Do a sketch challenge.

Career

-Find happiness in my job.

• Find a new day job that allows me to pursue theatre, as well.

• Find out how to create my own brand.

• Be able to work from home.

-Make creativity my job.

• Start filming youtube videos.

• Complete 100 days of makeup.

• Upload on the blog weekly.

• Write a book.

-Focus and make productivity a priority.

• At least one hour of work at home daily.

• Turn off the tv and work.

-Get back to the world of theatre.

• Audition more.

• Find new monologues.

• Start taking vocal lessons.

Financial

- Make financial goals with Nick.

• Save up for a vacation in 2020.

• Make a budget.

• Try a no spend month.

Health

-Find happiness in health.

• Find healthy but delicious recipes.

• Find a workout I don't hate.

• Do 30 days of yoga challenge.

• Eat out less, you'll enjoy it more when you can.

• Replace soda with tea.

• Do activity daily.

Home

-Continue to set up the apartment and make it our home.

• Set up makeup vanity.

• Get a bed frame.

• Put together entertainment center.

• Put up more pictures and art.

- Keep our space clean.

• Keep up with chore chart.

• Vacuum more frequently.

Relationships

-Make date nights a priority.

• Monthly dress up dates downtown.

• Find dates other than dinners.

• Plan date nights in.

-Make family a priority.

• Call home bi-weekly.

• Send more thank you cards.

• Make texting back a priority.

-Create more friendships and make the current ones thrive.

• Have girls nights more frequently.

• Go on Bumble BFF dates.

• Go out, even if it's not in my comfort zone.

• Reach out more frequently.

It may seem a like a lot, but they are broken down pieces of what I wish to accomplish. Hopefully, with a year, and some inspiration, this year will be amazing. Hard work, but amazing.

So let's get productive. Are you in this too? What are your goals for this year? Are you going specific or vague? How do you stick to your goals?

Thank you for being my accountability buddies in this process.

Bye Witches!